10 Signs You Are Dating An Energy Vampire
An energy vampire refers to a person who leaves you feeling drained and exhausted. They ‘feed off’ others’ energy, and always take more than they give.
Being in a relationship with an energy vampire can lead to chronic stress and hypertension, putting your nervous system at serious risk. Therefore, it is important to identify them and protect your energy at all costs.
Signs of Energy Vampires
Please watch out for these warning signs:
1. They have a negative attitude toward life, often complaining about everything and focusing only on the worst aspects of people or situations.
2. There is always something going on with them. Their drama seems to be never-ending!
3. They expect you to be their problem-solver and rely excessively on you for emotional support.
4. They play the victim card, seldom taking any accountability for their actions. It’s always them against the world.
5. Your breathing feels heavier around them. You feel at the edge and find it difficult to relax.
6. They require a lot of your time and attention, rarely ever considering your needs and moods.
7. They exert control over various aspects of your life, making decisions for you and dictating how you should think or act.
8. They get upset or throw tantrums when you set boundaries, or take a stand for yourself.
9. You feel anxious at the thought of meeting them. This is often your intuition trying to warn you.
10. They rarely show concern for your feelings or needs. When you try to talk to them about your problems, they often dismiss or minimize them.
Moreover, energy vampires rely on manipulation, guilt-tripping, gaslighting, and other forms of emotional abuse to keep you stuck with them.
Impact of Loving An Energy Vampire
Dating an energy vampire can deplete you emotionally and mentally. It may also pose serious health risks. This is how they can impact you:
1. Constantly dealing with their negativity, demands, and crises can leave you feeling emotionally drained and depleted.
2. Being in a relationship with someone who dismisses your needs and feelings can erode your self-esteem and self-worth over time.
3. Energy vampires often isolate their partners from friends and family, leading to loneliness and a lack of social support.
4. Being under constant stress and tension can mess up your nervous system impacting your overall well-being. It can lead to frequent headaches, infections, and stress-related illnesses.
5. Focusing so much on their needs and problems can cause you to lose sight of your own goals, interests, and identity.
6. The constant emotional turmoil can impair your ability to think clearly and make sound decisions, both within and outside the relationship.
7. After experiencing manipulation and emotional drainage, you might find it hard to trust others or engage in new relationships.
Individuals who have dated an energy vampire report having symptoms of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), and needing professional support to overcome the disastrous impact of dealing with an energy vampire.
What Can You Do?
Leaving the relationship may seem like the best option. However, if that is not possible then you must learn how to deal with an energy vampire and protect yourself from them. Here is how you can do it:
1. Reduce your interaction with them, and take your space. Cut down on the phone calls and limit the amount of time you spend with them.
2. Stop giving them the benefit of doubt. It is important to see and accept them for who they are. Please save your kindness for those who truly deserve it (like you!)
3. Build a strong sense of self. When you know who you are and what you deserve, you will naturally stop putting up with their drama and manipulation.
4. Many energy vampires may not be fully aware of the impact of their behavior. A reality check can help them see the consequences of their actions on you and others.
5. Limit your expectations. An energy vampire is unlikely to change or suddenly start caring about your feelings or needs. It is better to keep minimum expectations and be grounded in reality.
6. Put your own needs and well-being first. Make decisions based on what is best for you, rather than trying to appease the energy vampire.
7. Practice mindfulness or energy healing techniques regularly. This will help you stay present and emotionally balanced, making it harder for the energy vampire to affect you.
By implementing these strategies, you can protect yourself from the draining effects of an energy vampire and maintain your sanity.
What If Nothing Works?
Leena is a 45-year-old woman married to an energy vampire for 20 years. Since she can’t end the marriage, she can only learn to tackle her husband’s behaviors and limit the consequences.
Sadly, 20 years of emotional drainage has deteriorated Leena’s abilities and confidence to stand up for herself. She finds it incredibly difficult to voice her feelings and say NO to the abuse.
Moreover, her childhood experiences have shaped Leena into a timid and helpless woman. Even if she wanted to prioritize her well-being, she couldn’t.
So, is there no hope for Leena? Does she have to live her whole life stuck with the energy vampire?
Not at all.
Hypnotherapy at Holistic Living Wellness Studio changed everything for her. It helped her tap into her subconscious mind, releasing the suppressed emotions and giving her the space to heal from her past.
This was a game-changer because when Leena detached herself from her childhood traumas, she gained the confidence to change her life’s narratives. She no longer was the victim of her circumstances. Instead, she found the courage to take charge and live life on her terms.
Hypnotherapy encouraged Leena to shift her mindset from being helpless to being hopeful. She exerted her assertiveness and learned to prioritize herself.
“I was lost for 20 years. After therapy at Holistic Living Wellness Studio, I found myself again. I feel I am born again!” says Leena.
Now that is a highly powerful statement. Leena could have continued living her life feeling sorry for herself and being prey to the energy vampire. But she made the brave choice of seeking professional support and that one decision changed the course of her life.
If you are in a relationship with an energy vampire, someone who depletes you emotionally and physically, then it is time to take action.
Please assess your relationship and consider if it is worth staying at all. If you can’t end things then consciously work practicing the strategies mentioned above.
Please don’t shy away from seeking support. It is often difficult to recognize abuse, let alone overcome it on your own. Therefore, it is advisable to work with a trained therapist who can help you understand your situation and how you can manage it effectively.
Reach out for support today! Connect with top therapists and psychologists at Holistic Living Wellness Studio. Call/WhatsApp 91-9321073548 to book your session.
