Ensure Perfect Upbringing Of Your Child in 7 Proven Ways
7 simple yet effective ways for your child’s upbringing
Want to be a good parent and ensure good upbringing?
Every parents wants to raise a contended, healthy and a well-behaved kid. The key is to create a closer connection with your child. Simply telling our children that we love and care for them is not enough. We need to place our love into action every day for them to feel it.
Like any marriage or a friendship, your relationship with your young one needs positive attention to thrive. Attention equals Love. Like your garden, your car, or your work, what you attend to thrives. The secret to ensure good upbringing is some focused time every day attending only to that toddler. As a proud mother today, I can say that I have raised my child Aaryan to be a confident, happy and disciplined boy by applying the following suggestions into both mine and his daily life.
- Begin right for a firm foundation.
The closeness between a parent and their child results from how much parents connect with their newborns, right from the start. For instance, research has proved that fathers who take time off work when their little ones are born to have a closer relationship with their child at every stage, including as teens and college students.
- Prioritize time with your child.
With upbringing your child, without quantity, there’s no quality. You cannot expect an honest relationship with your daughter if you spend all your time at work and she spends all her time with her friends. So as difficult as it is with the pressures of work and daily life, if we want a better relationship with our youngsters, we have to free up the time to make that possible.
- Start with trust, the foundation of every good relationship.
Trust begins in infancy, once your baby learns whether she can rely on you to pick her up when she needs you. Over time, we earn our children’s trust in alternative ways such as keeping the promises we made to play a game with them later, not breaking their confidence, picking them up on time. At the same time, we put forth our trust in them by expecting the best from them and believing in their fundamental goodness and potential.
- Encourage, Encourage, Encourage.
Consider your child as a plant that is programmed by nature to grow and blossom. If you see the plant has brown leaves, you give it more sunlight, water, and fertilizer. You do not criticize it or yell at it to straighten up and grow right. Kids form their opinions of themselves and the world every day. They need your encouragement to see themselves as good human beings who are capable of good things and to know that you are by their side. This manifests their opinions about themselves and ensures good upbringing.
- Remember that respect must be mutual.
We tend to forget this with our kids because we think that we are the boss. You should set limits but if you do it respectfully and with empathy, your child will learn to treat others with respect and to expect to be treated respectfully. Good upbringing focuses on respect.
Once when I became impatient with my then 3-year-old Aaryan, he turned to me and said “I don’t like it when you talk to me that way.” Rather than challenging my authority, my infant was simply asking to be treated with the dignity he had come to expect. Now as a teenager, he continues to treat himself, me, and others, respectfully.
- Stay available.
Being on hand when they come home is a sure-fire way to get the highlights of their day with younger kids, and even, with older ones. For instance, when you are preparing dinner and she’s doing homework. Find ways to be in proximity where you are potentially available, without it making it look like a demand.
Say things like “I’ll be in the kitchen making lunch if you want me” or that you have to run to the grocery store, but your child should not hesitate to give you a call if they need you so that they know that they can come to you for anything. That is an example of responsible upbringing where you share responsibility.
The most vital part of good upbringing is staying available for your child. Your child will sense your emotional availability for them.
7.Praise them correctly.
When they bank a high score on a science test or win a soccer trophy, praise them for their hard work and effort instead of telling them they are smart or talented. Praising youngsters for effort encourages a growth mindset and ensures good upbringing. We want our kids to be confident in their abilities and to learn and solve problems.
Successful parenting is not about achieving perfection. But it doesn’t mean that we should not work towards that goal. Set high standards for yourselves first and your children second. We serve to be role models in front of them.
It takes a lot of effort to fully attend to another person, but when we are really present with our child, we often find that it energizes and makes us feel more alive. You can also book an exclusive session with your child at The Holistic Living. Their trained parenting coaches will help you form that special bond and ensure good upbringing of your kid that you always desired. Check out their Wellness Store and Wellness Academy for informative blogs and wonderful pocket-friendly products.