7 Parenting Habits Of Highly Effective Parents
What characteristics distinguish highly effective parents? What is it about them that has us all oohing and ahhing over their parental prowess, resulting in seemingly beneficial parenting outcomes? As we all know, there are no hard and fast rules in parenting, but there are several things that successful parents do that set them apart from the crowd.
Don’t tell them right now, but we’re going to blow the lid off the seven habits of extremely effective parents.
1. They Accept Imperfection
Let’s face it: pursuing perfection in everything is as meaningless as herding cats in fog. Truly effective parents understand this, and instead of chasing perfection, they are wise in the awareness that how they parent is a greasy tangle of a mess that has nothing to do with anyone else.
Those snobbish parents! They undoubtedly know a thing or two, such as how, in a study, researchers discovered that the pursuit for perfectionism in parents not only lowers parental confidence but also stresses parents out. Do we need any more stress in this anarchy known as parenting? NOOOO In your mind, the search for perfection is like a battleground. Put down your weapons of efficient parental destruction right now!
2. They Have a Stress Management Strategy
As previously stated, the stress in parenting is about as helpful as a third armpit. Of course, supermoms know how to roll with the punches rather than letting their brains go KABOOM! regularly.
What do they know about us that we don’t? The ability to deal with stress is the holy grail of effective parenting. According to studies, stress truly imprints on our children’s genes over time. Oh my goodness! Who would have guessed?
Whether it’s asking for help, preparing ahead, getting up fifteen minutes earlier, getting enough sleep, organizing chaos, or simply enjoying each day as it comes.
3. They isolate themselves from their children once in a while.
Take note! Does the fact that you spend all day, every day, performing the same mind-numbing duties mean you’re doing a good job? It’s more likely to turn you into a sloppy Joe, make you detest your job, and cause your brain to fall out of your ear. The same is true for parenting. And, guess what, it’s true. Those astute and highly productive parents are well aware of this.
We’re not advising you to go to the hills. However, ultra-efficient parents understand that not only is spending time away from your children delicious, but that making time to do the things you want to do, away from your children, is essential to parenting, resulting in a clear head, renewed energy, and a newfound enthusiasm for your offspring.
What’s the bottom line? Parents who are hyper-efficient understand the value of self-care and make it a priority, come hell or high water.
4. They set the rules…but not at any cost.
We all know that our little sprouts require regular regulations to keep them from becoming as crazy as a toucan, but virtuoso parents understand that enforcing the law is great art in and of itself. If you give them too little, they’ll act like crazed sheep; give them too much, and you’ll have a slew of delinquent punks on your hands.
Highly productive parents give authoritarian parenting a thumbs down and authoritative parenting a thumbs up! So, don’t worry about the minor details, okay?
5. They form a tag team.
Do you know what it’s like to be a parent? That’s what I’m talking about: the most ridiculous tag-team basketball championship ever. Powerhouse parents understand that
t to come out of this parenting thing smelling like flowers (rather than turds), you must tag team and be tighter than spandex on a Sumo wrestler, passing the ball three hundred times a day at rapid speed.
Tag-Team Parenting is growing more popular as parents compete for a time like maggots about to be cooked in hot grease to complete their parenting and job responsibilities.
6. They strive to improve their relationship with their partner.
Effective parents understand that before the scumbags, there was the love of their life. It’s difficult to be a good parent if your relationship with your partner is strained.
Furthermore, if your connection with your partner is strained, all of your efforts to be a good parent are zapped to oblivion by the reality that your bad relationship will lead to terrible behavioral and cognitive results for your children, according to studies.
Isn’t it a total bummer? We understand that super-efficient parents spend their time working and improving their relationships to cope with the constant relentless hammering that is motherhood.
But how exactly? When you’re drowning from the overwhelming demands of life, job, and parenting, we hear you cry. The answer might be found in suggestions such as “Spending tiny, good moments together is what matters in maintaining a solid and healthy relationship.”
7. They believe in their instincts.
You know how people often advise you to trust your gut, like if your stomach has its odd brain? Now we have proof that as parents, we should be doing just that. Ultra-competent parents may smile sweetly in the face of other people’s advice, but on the inside, they realize it’s about as beneficial as a truckload of chihuahuas.
These superior parent creatures know that their instincts are correct, and there’s evidence to back it up. Antonio Damasio, a neuroscientist, explains how emotions, such as gut feeling, can lead to better decision-making. So go forth and be one with your inner voice, hear it loud and proud, and let your intuition rule the parenting roost, baby.
Here’s to a new, more effective parenting you. Surely, a glass of wine is in order.
