7 Signs of a Codependent Relationship.
“Love is unselfish, but how far would you go for your beloved being in codependent relationship?”
Codependency is defined as being dependent on another for your sense of worth and using various sorts of manipulation to obtain their affection and acceptance in order to feel worthwhile.
A codependent relationship is a type of dysfunctional relationship in which one person provides care while the other takes advantage. Codependent relationships are highly frequent among those who struggle with drug abuse.
When each partner abdicates responsibility for themselves, the relationship becomes codependent. In general, one partner is the “taker,” while the other is the “caretaker,” however these roles might change depending on the situation. For example, one spouse may be a giver financially while the other is a taker emotionally or sexually.
Codependent personalities typically exhibit a regular pattern of harmful behaviours that directly interfere with the individual’s mental and emotional health and capacity to achieve fulfilment in a relationship.
It might be tough to spot whether you’re in a codependent relationship since they frequently appear to be fairly useful or calming to be in (at least at first), leading you to assume you’re in a healthy relationship. But the truth is that codependency is harmful and unsustainable.
Here are a few signs indicating that you’re in a codependent relationship:
- You feel trapped and stagnant in your relationship. You’re at a loss as to how to breathe new vitality into the relationship. You have the impression that you are settling and that you may be with the wrong partner.
- You are sensitive to your partner’s emotions but prefer to neglect your own, or you don’t even know how you feel.
- You don’t feel turned on by your partner. You don’t have much fun together, and there’s not a lot of affection. You’re lonely with your relationship, but you also feel alone—as if your lover isn’t looking out for you.
- You are anxious when you are with your relationship, and you are frequently upset and frustrated with your partner. You are more relaxed in the company of others than in the company of your lover.
- You have regular arguments and blame each other, feeling that if only one of you changed, everything would be OK.
- You harshly critique yourself, which may appear as you pushing yourself to look beautiful and perform well in order to gain your partner’s attention and acceptance.
- You make your partner accountable for your feelings; that is, you relate your dissatisfaction to your partner’s behaviour rather than accepting responsibility for how you feel.
Codependent tendencies can become so ingrained in your personality and conduct that you may struggle to recognise them on your own. Even when you detect them, codependency might be difficult to overcome on your own.
If you’re trying to overcome codependency, seek the assistance of a therapist who has worked with people in recovery from this complex condition.
They can assist you in identifying and addressing patterns of codependent behaviour, working on raising self-esteem, exploring what you want out of life, and reframing and challenging problematic thought habits.
Codependency is a complicated issue, but with a little effort, you can overcome it and begin to develop more balanced relationships that fit your needs.