Most couples spend more time planning their weddings than their marriages! With divorce rates at an all-time high, it seems that couples are facing more challenges than ever in preserving their relationship and also in nurturing the relationship to grow.
Many have very shaky relationship foundations, diminished emotional safety, and little ability to deflect internal conflict within their relationship, let alone the stressful external events that life sometimes can dish out. If you think about the amount of financial and emotional investment that goes into preparing for the wedding itself, doesn’t it make sense to invest a little in strengthening the relationship at the onset? The premarital counseling at Manovich Wellness Center helps couples to give the best possible start – to do all they can ahead of time to avoid marriage counseling later.
Based on our experience with couples who see us for marriage counseling and the issues they bring in, several things would have been helpful for them to have known about or worked on previously. Marriage is a bedrock institution in our society. A happy marriage is not only what most of us want, but that is actually best for us. Research shows us a lot of positive data associated with happy marriages.
Happily married people have longer lives, fewer illnesses, and higher self-concepts, less stress, more economic stability, and happier children. But sometimes marriage doesn’t work and divorce seems to be the only option. Marital discord can be handled well if timely facilitation is sought and divorce can be avoided.
A list of reasons for marital discord can be given but understanding the actual undercurrents and their manifestation in day to day life of the couple is important in resolving the marital discord and assisting couples to build a new understanding in them.
We at Manovich Wellness Center are well-versed to act as a facilitator for the couple to untangle the discord and then to design a way to sort it out. Counselors provide a supportive and motivating environment so that couples will act to resolve the conflict and gain more insight into the process. If it becomes clear that it is good for both of them to depart then the counselor work with the couple to make the separation amicably.