7 Life Advice Every Mom Needs To Know
Most mothers believe that they need to know a little bit about everything when it comes to what a mother should know. Your family looks to you for solutions to all of life’s big and minor questions. While being the master of all knowledge is nearly impossible, these seven easy-to-follow, creative life advice for moms can put you on the right track.
Survival Requires Flexibility
Children and their families require structure. Your universe will become Lord of the Flies unless you have some sense of structure in your life. That said, if you want to endure, oh, I don’t know, EIGHTEEN YEARS PLUS of parenthood, you’ll need to learn how to be flexible with your days. Every step of your child’s development necessitates a change in patience and flexibility.
Allow yourself the luxury of not being perfect at everything, of making mistakes, and of allowing room for personal parental development. Know that dinners will be pushed back, sports schedules will change, and your day will be rerouted by your children’s plans, but everything will be fine in the end. Make allowance for flexibility in your structure, and keep in mind that balance is key.
The Art of Letting Go
It’s common knowledge that youngsters amass large amounts of “things” over time. Even parents who strive for a minimalist existence come to a halt one day to discover that their universe is littered with garbage of every color, shape, and size. Toys, clothes, and artwork from four years ago have taken up every inch of your living space, and it will overwhelm you if you don’t learn to let go of what you don’t need.
Throw out anything that is broken or coming apart, and donate anything you no longer need to help other families. The memory capacity of a mother is enormous. Instead of storing your belongings in your living room or basement, keep them up there.
Even the most helpful “suggestions” are still just that: suggestions.
There are many beautiful individuals in the world, and many of them make it their life’s mission to assist you as you navigate motherhood. When you’re a mother, you’ll get “helpful” suggestions from all sides. Everyone has suddenly become an expert in everything and knows all the solutions to your issues. They even have solutions to problems you didn’t even realize you had!
Look at these ideas for what they are. Allow those who love you to share their pearls of wisdom, knowing that they most certainly have your best interests at heart. Then go back to what YOU know and believe.
Smile, let things pass through one ear and out the other and go about your business of raising decent people. When it comes to your children, you don’t have to listen to anyone’s advice. The bottom line is you’re the parent, you have all the reigns.
Word Called “Me Time,” and It’s Important.
If I had a dollar for every time someone said to me that I needed to create more time for myself, I’d be rich. It’s easier said than done for moms to press pause and prioritize themselves for even a few minutes a day.
The truth is that you need to carve out time for yourself. Maybe not every day, and certainly not all of the time, but there are moments when carving out a space to exercise mindfulness, happiness, and even selfishness is necessary. Even if it seems hard to take a break from the craziness for a time, keep in mind that you can’t give your all if you’re exhausted and running on fumes.
Find what makes you happy and takes you back to your center, and incorporate it into your life. Connect with nature, friends, art, or anything else! For a few minutes, forget about being a mother and return to your brood family, energized and ready to face anything they have in store.
Find a Carpool and Don’t Give It up
When your kids are small, it’s important about finding your mom tribe and filling your days with fun and worthwhile activities that will enrich your child’s world. Meeting needs, boosting brain power, creating memories, and wondering if you’ll ever sleep again are all part of life with small children. Your mind is racing with information on the finest educational toys, foods to introduce, and where your baby fits on the growth chart. The thought of a carpool is the furthest thing from your thoughts.
However, as the children grow older, they find friends and participate in school and travel sports. You unexpectedly find yourself living in the family car while also driving your spawn as a certified and underpaid Uber driver.
Divide and conquer with a few families from your child’s soccer team or dancing team. Everyone dedicates a day to the gods of children’s sports. That day will be awful, but what about the days when your buddies have their turn?
Those days remind me of Christmas morning. You’ll be overjoyed to be able to stay at home and wash laundry in your PJs! Look at how grateful you are! Find a decent gang to carpool with, and don’t let them go. Keep a firmer grip on those folks than you do on your spouse. You may decide that you no longer require your spouse, but you will always require the carpool.
If you only teach your children one thing, make it independent.
This is a win-win situation to include in your parenting routine. Your children will become capable and confident as a result of instilling a sense of independence in them, making your life much easier. Teach your children to help themselves, to solve issues for themselves, and to find solutions even when none exist, so that they do not grow up to be the one who always asks their partner where the towels are kept.
Raise your children to believe that they are capable of anything. They can do anything if they can think it. Remove barriers, shatter ceilings, and develop self-sufficient, thinking fighters who will be OK when they reach maturity. It will not be your fault if they feel suffocated later in life as adults.
Make time even if you have “no time.”
This applies to snapping photos, watching movies, going on vacations, and having fun on adventures. Make the effort to create memories. Moms are always the creators of enchantment, but they are rarely seen enjoying the wonder they have created. Learn how to be present with your children. Do the things that make you feel “lazy” or “unnecessary,” and look at life through your children’s eyes.
They want to see you smiling and happy. They require your relaxation for them to relax. Force yourself to share pieces of your life with your children, because those memories will keep you afloat when you’re feeling nostalgic when they’re older.
The Single Most Valuable Piece of Guidance
When it comes to tips and methods for surviving parenthood, one piece of advice will always rule supreme. Right answers don’t exist in the chaotic world of parenthood. Don’t waste your days wondering if you’re doing everything perfectly or if you should be putting money down for future therapy fees because you’ve completely messed up your parenting.
Your parenting path is like a fingerprint; it’s absolutely unique to you. Enjoy the voyage by trusting your emotions, your intuition, and your abilities. Being a mother is truly a once-in-a-lifetime event.